Nutrition Wellness

Self Love Isn’t Selfish: Top Tips For Taking Care of Numero Uno


What is self love?  It’s been bandied about as a catchy tagline by the health and wellness press for quite some time now.  But what does it even mean?

I believe self love is best described by the dictionary definition : “regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic)”.  It sounds really weird to spend time focusing on one’s own happiness; maybe appearing a little selfish.  But it isn’t.  Practicing effective self love means you then have the increased mental and emotional capacity to extend that love and wellbeing to those around you.  Now that’s special.

Each person’s idea of self love is different based on their own set of circumstances and lifestyle.  I don’t do it enough (my better half is much more in tune;  he meditates, enjoys yoga as well as reading and listening to music in his limited downtime).    It goes without saying that decent nutrition and exercise play a big part in my self love but I really appreciate a lovely long soak in the bath as well as naps at the weekend to recharge my batteries.

Here are some good ideas for practising self love:

Invest in yourself

Spend a little time during the day  reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you and maybe teaches you a thing or two.


Take a long bath, or practise a relaxing beauty regime.  It’s a great way to unwind at the end of a long day.  Once in a while a lovely glass of red wine helps destress too :).


Improve on a bad day

If your day isn’t going the way you want it to, then take one small step towards something positive to breathe positivity into your week.  Good ideas for this are to schedule time with friends, get into a new hobby or think about ways to grow your career.  Or book a vacation, that always helps!


Be kinder towards others

The way you think about and treat others is often the way you think about and treat yourself. So choose to be kinder towards others to, over time, become kinder and more understanding towards yourself too.

Laugh more

5-10 minutes of laughter in the middle of your day can make a massive difference.  I love comedy podcasts that I listen to every day on my phone.  Also my kids and dog make my laugh every day without fail.

How do you practice self love?  







  1. This is beautifully well written, but in laymen terms I’m going to quote Rupaul
    “If you can’t love yourself, how in the h are you going to love somebody else? Can I get an amen?”

  2. You can certainly get an Amen, since we are commanded to “love your brother as you love yourself” which means you have to “love yourself” first, otherwise love for “your brother” will be deficient.

  3. This post is so timely for me. Thank you. This stuff is so simple, yet many of us have a hard time fitting in these valuable practices. Some see it as selfish but you can’t save a person from drowning if you yourself can seem to stay above water.

    I plan to start today by setting aside time each day for breathing, meditation, stretching, and other relaxing activities.

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